If you have big dreams and want the best life has to offer, then there’s every chance that you’ve struggled with impostor syndrome. People who experience impostor syndrome go through phases of self-doubt in their abilities and have a persistent irrational fear of being exposed as a fraud no matter their accomplishments.
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So, where does it come from? Some researchers have linked it with perfectionism and believe it has its roots in the way parents classify some members of the family. For example, one child might be labelled the ‘intelligent’ one while the other might be labelled the ‘sensitive’ one.
So how do you overcome impostor syndrome?
Take Note Of Your Influences
Sometimes, studying the lives of people you look up to is all it takes to gain more confidence in your abilities and get out of the cycle of self-doubt. When you learn that your idols also experienced phases of self-doubt and confusion at some point in their lives, you realise that this happens to everyone and you too can get over it.
Remember That Your Feelings Don’t Always Represent The Facts
Feelings are just…FEELINGS! They are not the litmus test for determining what’s fact and what’s fiction. Realise that just because you feel like a loser, doesn’t mean you are.
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Remind Yourself That You’re Good At What You Do
The impostor syndrome strikes even the most talented and gifted individuals out there. This is why it is necessary to keep a record of all the things you’ve accomplished.
This could be in the form of positive reviews from happy customers, a commendation from a superior at work, or compliments from friends and family. You can create a folder detailing all the instances that prove your value. This might seem like too much work but you’d be amazed at how much this can boost your confidence when you need it.
Develop A New Attitude Towards Failures
Bruce Lee once said, “Don’t fear failure. — Not failure, but low aim is the crime. In great attempts, it is glorious even to fail.” Instead of falling into despair when you fail at the big project, applaud yourself for even starting in the first place and learn from your mistakes.
Don’t Wait Till The Perfect Time
Although the phrase, fake it til you make it, may sound like cliche advice, the point still stands. No rule says you must be prepared in every possible way before putting yourself out there. Sometimes, the best outcomes come as a result of taking risks. Start from somewhere and allow your confidence to build up.
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